Adoption over Abortion
Adoption over Abortion
We’ve been fighting the wrong war.
For decades, people have poured millions of dollars into anti-abortion efforts, protests, lobbyists, political campaigns, court battles, and commentary. We’ve written speeches, changed laws, and passed bills. And yet… we haven’t fixed it. Because the real crisis isn’t just abortion. It’s the lack of real options.
You want to change the direction of this country? Then start funding adoption.
Here’s the truth: abortion exists because adoption doesn’t feel accessible.
Let me tell you about my big sister, Allie.
She and her husband have been trying for years to have a child. And after all that waiting, all that heartbreak, they finally started pursuing adoption. It’s been three years of preparing, emotionally, financially, logistically. And it’s hard. It’s really hard. Adoption is incredibly expensive. There are a million hoops to jump through. Some of them are necessary, to keep kids safe, and I get that. But the system is so complex and slow that even the most determined families struggle to get to the finish line.
Getting more children into more loving homes, faster, should be something we all agree on.
The incredible part? Right as Allie and her husband were about to put down the deposit to begin their adoption process, she found out she was pregnant. We’re all overjoyed. But even so, they still want to adopt in the future, they just can’t move forward while she’s pregnant.
That’s how much they believe in adoption.
That’s how many families out there are ready and waiting, and being slowed down by a broken system.
And then there’s Mr. Prior, one of my mentors and friends. He and his wife adopted two amazing boys from Taiwan. I don’t even see them that often, but every time I do, they make my life better. They’re joyful, kind, hilarious, the kind of kids you hope grow up to lead the world.
But you know why he adopted overseas?
Because it was easier for him to adopt from Taiwan than it was to adopt from here, in the United States.
That’s not just a problem. That’s a national embarrassment.
We should be taking care of our own children. We should be making adoption within our country simpler, safer, and faster, not forcing people to look across oceans because the red tape here is unbearable.
And then there are the teenage girls, the ones no one wants to talk about.
I’ve had conversations with some of them. I’ve heard the heartbreak in their voices. They’re not choosing abortion out of convenience. They’re choosing it because they feel like they have no other option. Not because they don’t want to carry the baby. Not because they’re embarrassed. But because they know they can’t raise a child, and they believe, often rightly, that giving the baby to the foster care system is just passing the pain forward.
Because the foster care system in this country is broken. Completely.
And that’s the real kicker: we’ve created a system where giving birth feels riskier than ending a life.
Let that sink in.
That is one of the most heartbreaking things that I have ever written.
If you were 17, scared, alone, and knew your baby might grow up bouncing from home to home in a system that’s underfunded, overwhelmed, and deeply flawed, what would you do?
We have to fix this. Not tomorrow. Not someday. Now.
We don’t need more signs. We need more cribs.
We’ve been fighting a symptom of a broken system instead of fixing the root of the problem.
We scream at each other about abortion, pass laws back and forth depending on who’s in office, and call that progress. It’s not. That’s a cycle. And cycles don’t heal people.
When’s the last time you saw a pro-adoption commercial?
I’ve never seen one. And that’s insane.
Because we could make one tomorrow. It wouldn’t even be hard. And it would actually do something to shift the culture, not overnight, but over time. Slowly, intentionally, and powerfully.
Instead, what do we get?
Gory signs of torn-apart babies outside clinics and high schools. “Awareness” campaigns that are really just fear campaigns. Anti-abortion ads that ramp up around election season, because to most people, this has become political strategy, not cultural transformation.
But here’s the thing: that’s not changing hearts. That’s just adding shame, especially for the girl who’s already scared, already hurting, already questioning whether there’s a way forward for her and her baby.
Yes, there are people who choose abortion casually. But that’s not most people.
Most people I’ve talked to, and there have been a few, aren’t looking for a way out. They’re looking for a safe way forward. And the truth is, we haven’t offered them one.
If we gave people a clear, supported, and trustworthy alternative, one that didn’t put their child at risk long-term, one that felt like a genuinely good future for their baby, we would see a cultural shift.
Because people don’t just want to avoid pain. They want to choose something better.
Imagine This Instead:
If half of the donors, organizations, influencers, or everyday people who cared about life stopped fighting and started funding, what could change?
Fewer overwhelmed moms who feel like they have no options
More families able to say yes to adoption without going into debt
Agencies with the resources to work faster, safer, and better
And most importantly: a culture that supports life through action, not just opinions
Being “pro-life” has become a political identity. But it was never supposed to be political. It was always supposed to be practical.
This is fixable.
And it’s time we actually did something about it.
We need a cultural shift toward supporting life with action, not just opinions.
This is the moment to choose what kind of society we want to be.
This is the time we need to step up as a new generation stepping into power. Power to vote, power to make our voices heard.
Because right now? We’ve got a choice to make.
Are we going to keep yelling at each other, wasting time and money trying to score points and win elections, while absolutely nothing changes for the moms, the babies, or the families caught in the middle?
Or are we going to get to work?
Because I’m tired of the noise. I’m tired of the same fights and the same headlines and the same people pretending like they’re doing something when really, they’re just talking.
We could build something better. Seriously. We could build systems that actually support women, from pregnancy through motherhood. We could make it easier and more affordable for good families to adopt. We could fix a broken foster care system that everyone knows is failing. None of that is a mystery. We just have to decide it’s worth doing.
Adoption isn’t a soft response to abortion.
It’s not the quiet option.
It’s the brave one.
And honestly? It’s the one we’ve ignored for too long.
So yeah, I’m done shouting. I’m done watching people throw shame instead of solutions. I want to build something that actually helps people.
And if you’re reading this, I think you might want that too.
This is your challenge.
If you care about life, then do something that actually supports it.
Adopt.
Help someone else adopt.
Give to an adoption fund.
Sponsor a birth mom.
Partner with an agency that’s doing the hard, behind-the-scenes work.
Push for policies that make adoption faster, safer, and more affordable, because right now, it’s not.
And while you’re at it? Write to your elected officials.
We complain about what’s broken all the time, at the dinner table, on social media, in group chats. But most of us never take five minutes to actually tell the people in charge what we want to see changed.
How are they supposed to know what we care about if we never say it?
Let them know you want a system that makes adoption easier. Let them know you want foster care reform. Let them know that being pro-life means building solutions, not just blocking access.
This isn’t just something I write about, it’s something I believe in deeply.
Sadie and I talked about adoption on our very first date. No joke. Before we even really knew where our story was headed, we both knew this was something we wanted to do someday.
And even now, married, still young, figuring things out, I’m just as adamant. I know we’re going to adopt one day. It’s not a maybe. It’s part of the plan.
Because every kid deserves a shot at a family. And if I can be part of that, I will be.
This is how we heal the brokenness.
This is how we prove we mean it.
Not with louder voices, but with stronger action.
Why I Write
I’m writing these posts because I need a place to think — really think — about what’s happening in our country, our state, and our communities. I’ve always cared deeply about public service, about leadership, and about the future of the place I love. But caring isn’t enough. If I want to lead one day, I need to understand what I believe, why I believe it, and how those beliefs should shape the way I show up.
This corner of my website isn’t polished or promoted. It’s not where I’m trying to impress anyone. It’s simply a space for me to get my ideas out of my head and onto paper — a place to wrestle with frustrations, ask hard questions, and be honest about what’s going on in the world around me.
And just so it’s clear: I reserve the right to be wrong.
Not because I’m unsure of what I believe today, but because I’m 24, still growing, and still learning. I might change my mind. I might rethink things. I might see something differently down the road. That’s not weakness, it’s growth. You’re allowed to disagree with me, and I’m allowed to learn as I go.
I know that one day I want to run for office. That means I need a record of my values, my convictions, and the lessons I’m learning as I watch, listen, and pay attention. These posts are my way of preparing, sharpening, and growing, not to score points, but to become the kind of person who can serve with clarity, humility, courage, and integrity.
This isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about starting the work now, thinking deeply, learning constantly, and building the ideas I’ll need for the future.
If you stumbled across this page, I hope you find something worth thinking about. But mainly, this exists so I can keep doing the work:
to observe, reflect, adjust, and speak up — not just someday, but today.